Throughout their hedonistic twenties, most men have little thought of getting into a long-term relationship. Whether they dream of living the “James Bond” lifestyle or simply aren’t ready to get their life together, most men in this age group aren’t looking for a serious commitment. Then, their thirties hit and they suddenly realize, “I need a girlfriend.”
But there are a lot of good reasons for settling into a long-term relationship while you’re still in your twenties. For one thing, life can be a lot cheaper when there are two of you sharing costs. Gas, food, hotel bills, and lots of other expenses can be a lot to handle on your own. Together, they’re much more manageable.
Of course, money isn’t the real reason why people settle down. There’s a lot to be said for having a stable partner who is always there for you. Life’s ups and downs seem much less harsh when you have someone to share them with. And building a life with someone else is good motivation to actually achieve something worthwhile.
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When it comes right down to it, the best way to attract the right lady is to be attractive yourself. But besides good looks, what do women looking for a boyfriend really find attractive in a man?
Unfortunately, (or maybe fortunately) everyone is different, and the answer changes from woman to woman. But here are some characteristics that are attractive to most women:
While this may be an obvious point, it is one of the characteristics that makes a difference between a guy who is serious about a relationship and someone who’s just “playing the field.” If you really want to build a long-term relationship, you need to be capable of showing your lady how you really feel about her. Being romantic is one way to show appreciation.
According to Andrea Madison of AskMen.com, confidence is extremely important, and I couldn’t agree more. It’s hard for a woman, or anyone else, to feel like they can rely on you if you don’t have confidence in yourself. A confident person doesn’t worry about small things and doesn’t need anyone else’s approval.
Bring Out Your Creative Side
While not everyone is an artistic genius, most of us have some creative talent or skill. When women think about settling down with a man, they want someone who can keep them happy and interested. A creative skill can help make your life together more interesting.
In an article for Complex.com, Patricia Hamcastle talks about how it’s important to be ambitious. Ambition differs from confidence as it’s directed towards accomplishment. Pure confidence without direction is one step removed from arrogance.
Ambition is the force that drives us to test ourselves and accomplish big things. An ambitious man isn’t going to settle for second best in life, and a lady can be confident that her quality of life will improve when she is with him.
But ambition must be tempered. Blind ambition, that sacrifices everything else in order to accomplish a goal, is not attractive.
Get Your Life Together
If you’re in your twenties and thinking about settling down with a serious girlfriend (maybe for the first time), then you probably have some other parts of your life that aren’t as organized as they should be. Things like pensions and savings accounts can be deathly boring, but they do make for a more stable life. If a woman is going to get into a stable relationship with you, she needs to know that your life together will be stable and secure.
If you’ve decided “I need a girlfriend,” then well done. Use the tips above to become more attractive to women, and you’ll find it much easier to attract an incredible girlfriend.